1/ After I gave birth, 好覺得D孤兒好不幸,好慘好慘。
2/ 我第1個BB,托賴,樣樣都好好,覺得係我兩公婆好彩,吾係吾想生多個,但好驚吾係次次咁好彩(我有1個舅父,生了1個完全正常,1個嚴重弱智;有1朋友,索得孿女,先天問題,24週出世,1個幸存(正常),1個只生存了40天)
3/ 我仔己2歲4個月,我較喜歡兄弟相差1-1.5年,現在遲了些少。
4/ 我倆公婆頗有信心教出有正確價值觀的好孩子。
5/ (最新原因)老公剛知有慢性病,這幾年內不宜生育。
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佢地要求義工commit at least 3hrs/week, 所以時間上我都要度度。
好多時我地話要教小朋友分辨是非,但往往自己又比其他野confuse/動搖自己what is 是&非。如果你養緊隻貓,會吾會你家族嘅人叫你吾養就吾養?會吾會你家族嘅人吾鐘意你隻貓你就吾養?如果你真係好愛牠,如果你覺得養隻貓是正確的話,我唸你都吾會la! 如果你因為咁而吾養,即是話養貓之前你未想清楚,究意養貓其實係"是" or"非",隻貓對你黎講原來係冇價值!
katrina959,
Sorry to hear about your story!!!
So, I always remind myself:
- it's not my personal decision, but my family decision (incl my own kid)
- are we mature enough to handle both kids
- what is the temperament of my own kid
etc, etc....
but the most important is 我們家庭是否有共同而且正確的價值觀。
昨天也和我先生再短談過領養的事,暫時仍很正面的,但要討論的還有很多,也急不來。我自己正修讀兒童心理學,打算去有關機構做義工,到我仔大些也打算帶他參予一些有關活動,希望培養出他的empathy (not sympathy, anyone who only has sympathy cannot overcome the challenge from the big deal - adoption) Hope I (we) could prepare the best for this.