agree. i know that my husband dislike fat women as once he saw my daughter's friend's mom, and said something like, "horrible, so fat", she nearly double my size. i then asked him, what if i am as fat as her, of course he said no problem for me, he will still love me no matter how fat i am. i also have thought if he only "tum" me only. i feel this is his true feeling, but i always ask the same question. he then one day said, 24 years together already, we are no longer at the age who looked at the appearance only any more. i really want to cry at that moment.